A Little about me
I had a real nightmare with impotence (erectile dysfunction) for a long time. It’s a horrible problem to put up with and can really negatively impact on your relationships, confidence and self esteem as a man. Finally I’m out of this dark cloud that hung over my head. I you are looking into how to help impotence this guide will be very useful to you. It’s about my personal experiences with ED and what I personally did to finally recover on my own, finding my own impotence natural remedy.
You tend to hear a lot about much older men getting erectile dysfunction but it’s rare that I ever hear about it from a younger persons perspective. It was definitely a psychological issue for me.
Impotence can really effect a person negatively in so many ways. It can make a person feel extremely emasculated. It can lower self worth. It can cause fall outs and nasty behaviour towards loved ones. I stayed up a good few times at night crying, worrying about it wishing I didn’t have the problem.
What I think tends to happen is you have your first bad experiences, then due to the worry of getting it again you loose confidence in it and you then have yet another problem with it. This becomes a downward spiral as the worry grows and grows and continues to get worse the condition worsens as well. It got to the point with me (a person who usually is very confident and self-assured) where I would avoid sex with beautiful woman just because I was so scared of it happening again. Woman that I has just seduced would be wondering why I wouldn’t have sex with them. I was also worried at how much of a turn off it would be if I told them about it so I tried to act confident all the time. Occasionally I would be mean to the girl and hurt her feelings to deflect my shame and embarasment.
My issue with penile disfunction was mainly a psychological problem. Hhere are just a small few small issues off of the top of my head that I think were related:
- For a number of reasons I won’t go into, the first time I had sex was an extremely unpleasant and uncomfortable experience, with someone I didn’t want it to be with. I was also still getting over the love of my life who broke my heart and I who I always thought it should be with.
- Guilt issues for sleeping around when I did and it not being with somebody I was in love with or at least ready to settle down with and commit to.
- At that time in my life I was feeling negative towards woman. I was a bit of a player too and I found it very hard to trust woman.
- Stress impotence, being directly effected by high level of stress and pressure I felt in my life. My problems were mostly financial pressures and pressure from other people.
I tried all the techniques, visualisations, the Kegel muscle exercises and all those dietary male libido boosters as well. I have been to the doctor several times in the past (who proscribed me cialis) but in the end I had to take it upon myself to become free of my condition. This is such an amazing thing for me, at times in the past I thought I would never be free from it. I feel so lucky at the quality of my love and sex life as it is now. To be confident in he knowledge that I will have a hard stiff penis when I have sex feels amazing, something most people just take for granted.
Some proclaimed causes of impotency and my personal take of them without the marketing garbage
To start with I’ll run through a few of the commonly considered causes and one less often considered cause.
Smoking and Impotence
Dr Bill O’Neill, tobacco adviser to the British Medical Association, has stated that the prospect of cancer or heart disease in 30 years was no where near as likely as the possibility of impotence in 10 years time because smoking causes impotence.
Whilst there is indisputably a link between smoking and impotence, in the relatively young, fit and healthy I can’t imagine that it could be the number one underlying cause for most people, just the few. I do think it can make a difference and if you are serious about curing yourself you should seriously consider quitting. Also if you have an erection in the first place it improves it to give you a much more powerful hard stiff penis and helps you to stay erect longer.
I must also add that I quit smoking around the time that I really started to get over this problem, however I think this is largely coincidental although perhaps a big help. I read some of this book just before I quit: Easy way to Stop Smoking. I’m unsure how much of my success at quitting had to do with it.
Alcohol and Impotence
Again; whilst it is undoubted that alcohol can have a direct effect on impotence this seems to only be the case on the actual night of drinking large quantities or as a case of unusually poor health with excessive regular binge drinking and alcohol problems. Importantly, if you want to heal your ED I would advise that it’s time you started taking your health seriously anyway.
This article here about alcohol and impotence from the new scientist explains that there may actually be a link between regular moderate drinking and improved erectile performance, similar to the way that a glass of red wine a day is good for your heart.
Hypertension Impotence
Whilst there is undoubtedly a link between hypertension (or high blood pressure) and erectile dysfunction, there is no definite conclusion as to exactly why it can cause ED. A relatively large amount of the time physical impotence is caused by Hypertension. For me personally I cannot comment on hypertension impotence as I have an unusually healthy and low blood pressure, probably due to the fact that I’ve been meditating since I was 13.
Stress Impotence
As I mentioned above I think stress impotence plays quite a big part. Perhaps for a lot of people with temporary impotence this is the underlying cause. It’s important to strive for balance in your life and find some things to do for relaxation and enjoyment, perhaps meditation could be a solution for this.
However, realistically it’s nearly impossible to be perfectly balanced all of the time. As part of your overall well being and health it’s important to keep check on this and make sure you’re doing what you can do to achieve balance in your life as well as stay fit, healthy and eating right. To be able to relax in the bedroom is huge when it comes to stress and again perhaps some basic form of meditation beforehand for relaxation and to help in dealing with stress could be very useful.
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Condom Impotence
I mention condom impotence as a factor here as for a while I blamed condoms for my male disfunction.
Truly, some people really find condoms a turn off and it can put them out of the mood for sex. However, if you normally don’t have a problem without condoms it’s nothing to worry about and just due to a dislike of condoms.
For people with proper impotence; condom impotence can be a factor that makes things worse though not the cause. It can sometimes ruin the immersion and the moment which is quite a vital factor in feeling right about sex. Sometimes it’s helpful just to laugh it off, when the mood gets put on hold awkwardly, and show your partner you can see the light side of a situation. If you feel OK about a situation it will show and your attitude will transfer to her. You can also try ultra light condoms.
Treatments for Impotence and Impotence Products
Psycho sexual Counselling
Often used for couples that have sexual problems and also for people with impotence caused psychologically. If you think your erectile dysfunction is psychological and you’ve had this problem for considerable time having tried many other avenues I would recommend at least considering this option to improve impotence even though I personally managed to without it. If you have been a victim of sexual abuse in your lifetime it would definitely be the direction to take
Impotence Pumps
An often effective solution for those with physical ED are impotence pumps. Although effective temporarily I wouldn’t recommend this long term unless it’s really needed for a definite physical problem. I feel this covers up the deeper issues and can ruin the joy, intimacy and beauty of sexual intercourse.
Viagra/Levitra/Cialis
These can be very effective also. Works well for those with erectile dysfunction due to physical problems. Can also work for psychological reasons in part due to the increased confidence and belief in your ability to get an erection whilst on it. Again, if your issue is psychological I wouldn’t recommend this as a long term option as dependence on it can be quite harmful. These are also known to be quite bad for the heart, so long term use is to be avoided if possible.
Injections for Impotence
Injections for Impotence are injections of a drug directly into the shaft of the penis. This is usually done by you or your partner and taught by a nurse. The procedure is fairly easy to learn and very effective. Again, if it’s psychological I wouldn’t recommend injections for impotence long term if you haven’t really tried to deal with your issue yet. It should not be used as a way of avoiding a problem.
Herbal Cure for Impotence/Male Potency Herbs
My guess is that nearly everybody that has been struggling with ED for some time have looked into a herbal cure for impotence, herbal aphrodisiacs for men and herbal libido boosters. Every male enhancement herb I have tried has had some effect on me, positive and negative. These also go by the name of Male Libido boosters as well but don’t be fooled these are basically the same thing.
Probably the most popular of the herbal male potency supplements is the Golden root herbal supplement. Personally I find the effects quite average. Out of all these treatments for impotence; without a doubt the two that I have used with by far the best results on a regular basis have been Raging Bull and especially Extra Strong. Extra strong is more of the cialis type drug and VERY effective, raging bull fits more into the ‘male libido boosters’ category. If looking into these though be careful as there are various supplements called extra strong and various supplements called raging bull, I couldn’t be sure as to exactly which one I used.
There another downside to a herbal cure for impotence though and that is the side effects. Everything from disturbed vision, strong heartburn and bad headaches. Known to be particularly nasty out of these are the Viapro side effects. I would recommend a herbal cure for impotence for temporary impotence problems but not to turn to it if you have a longer term problem. With continued use you can could easily get dependent and it would be counter productive and very damaging to your health.
EFT Tapping for Impotence
Another one of the possible treatments for impotence I have used in the past has been EFT. Some of the results I got were really astounding. It really helped bring up some of the biggest psychological issues for me that I didn’t realise I even had. Whilst not being the magic pill this was extremely helpful as it helped me understand the psychological causes of my impotence, for example, my extreme fear of vulnerability. I think accepting and observing your emotions is an important first step to releasing them. I was quite shocked at some of the beliefs and fears I had regarding sex and ED. This is one great way to help yourself become naturally stiff. Rather than trying to change how you feel and change your negative beliefs it tends to just dissipate them and weaken their hold over you.
This was also helpful treatment for impotence in terms of helping me deal with other fears and insecurities as well that were a by-product of having male disfunction in the first place. For example I’d developed great performance anxiety and anxiety before sex due to worry about the problem, this helped me to relax more as I learned to deal with and heal my condition.
I remember a really strange experience once doing EFT and I was close to tears with some emotional clearing out, just after I finished though I got a really hard stiff penis. It was such a weird experience to go from feeling so sad to feeling better and suddenly getting a raging hard stiff penis I couldn’t believe it. It was almost like I could see the instant physiological reaction in my body from doing EFT and releasing toxic emotions linked to memories.
Here is the most effective place to go for EFT therapy for male impotence. I got amazing results from their sexual balance DVD for impotence. There is also some other really great stuff out there on the website. Do a search for the Sexual Balance DVD’s for impotence. I fully recommend the impotence course here as it has had a huge positive impact on me.
Here is the link to the site: EFT Video Coaching at myGenie.tv
If you find this EFT program effective and useful there is lots of free information out there to further your learning if you have the spare time, discipline and inclination to learn it all that you can look into to further develop your EFT therapy. Perhaps if you have the resources you could personally visit an EFT therapist for private sessions.
Hypnotherapy Impotence
Another extremely powerful tool when looking into how to help impotence is hypnotherapy. Sometimes with hypnosis there is doubt as to whether it’s having an effect. This is because hypnosis effects you slowly and naturally on a subconscious belief level, so you wouldn’t notice the changes as it happens under conscious awareness.
Although I had some doubts at the time I was using it, looking back now I am 100 percent confident in hypnotherapy. Impotence problems were substantially reduced for me because of hypnotherapy. I would definitely recommend it if you’re looking into different impotence natural remedy options.
Patience is very important with hypnotherapy impotence, it doesn’t always make huge changes overnight and the more you use it and get comfortable with it the more susceptible to getting healed you are. You can feel better and better about listening to hypnosis the more you listen as you know the more you use it the more powerful it becomes. With consistent use for about ten days for anybody with an open mind I am completely positive changes will happen.
Here is the website I used with great effect: Richard Mackenzie Hypnotherapy
I tried about three different hypnosis tapes and they all seemed to make a positive effect. This course was the most powerful out of all the ones I tried. Different hypnosis tapes seem to differ in effect for everybody though so if for some unlikely reason this one doesn’t work as well for you as you’d like, get your money back and find one that will. I would definately recommend his hypnosis products though. Remember the key is consistent use, make sure you give it a good try and you ill definitely see positive results.
Information Products and Guides
This is very important. I was reading and re-reading bits of information from all over the internet and beyond. I’ve looked into loads of information online and in my opinion these have the best content and are the most helpful on the web:
This one really opened my eyes, probably my most recommended favourite online book on impotence, it also actually improved my sex life and overall well-being: ED Remedy Report
And this one: Cure impotence in 14 days! – If you are struggling about knowing where to start I would recommend this book. It has a 14 day step by step plan with a money back guarantee if it doesn’t do the job, a nice way to begin your ed journey today.
How I did it
I am now cured. I never really believed I could do it but I am cured. After ED I quickly got a premature ejaculation problems (to me an infinitely better problem than my previous one). These days I don’t have problems with either issue really. I’m pretty much completely cured and don’t need any kind of pills or potions or weird un natural contraptions. Find your own impotence natural remedy and this will make you hundreds of times happier and more fulfilled.
Everybody’s journey with this is different, the most important thing is that you take the first step, don’t run away from it. As long as you persistently keep trying things, I believe that eventually you will heal yourself
I know it can sometimes feels like you will be cursed with Impotence forever. Hiding away from woman and from the issue won’t help though and will probably make you more anxious, thus making things worse. Although sometimes a person can think that by avoiding it completely it won’t be a problem the truth for me was that it was always affecting me at the back of my mind, I was always carrying it around with me. Curing erectile dysfunction once and for all felt like a huge relief for me and a huge weight off my back. I’m a much happier person today.
THERE ARE NO MAGIC PILL MALE IMPOTENCE CURES. A combination of the above things made the difference. A lot of sex is emotional, whether we work on it or not. For me trust and being comfortable with vulnerability and with being intimate with woman were huge factors. Realise showing emotion isn’t unmanly, clear and honest communication is a turn on when done correctly.
Finding a great girlfriend helped a great lot as well. It wasn’t always pretty and ED made things very difficult for us sometimes but being show such unconditional love was a huge factor. If you partner isn’t willing to show empathy or is really nasty to you about it then it might be time to find somebody new! I must add though to try to show some understanding as it is hard for your woman as well.
One other thing that affects us all and makes us all insecure is social conditioning. This played a part in my ED as well. We are led to believe incorrect things about sex and relationships through advertising and especially the adult film industry. EFT can help with this, but try to find out what sex really means to you and ignore what outside influences try to tell you it’s about.
All the products online should come with some kind of money back guarantee so if you don’t get enough out of it MAKE SURE you get your money back and spend it on something else to continue your journey. The most important thing is to give everything a try, the rewards will be enormous. Don’t cheat yourself of a great and fulfilling love and sex life. Try the suggestions above that sound best to you and give things a really good go. Keep in mind the pain that you feel day to day from this nightmare problem and then imagine all the pleasure and happiness you would feel if you were to get this part of your life handled the way you wish it would be. It’s not a hard choice.
The only person responsible for your life is you. The deciding factor at the end of the day as to whether or not you get cured is you. It doesn’t matter what product you use, if you don’t face up to it nothing will chance. Hypnotherapy, EFT and the e-books etc. are the keys to the door. You have to walk through it.
Not sure which one to try out now? Try one of the e-books. Try out the simple 14 day plan and see what it can do for you. Choose the hypnotherapy and EFT as great accompaniments alongside this great journey you’re undertaking.
Know that with consistent work you WILL enjoy the beautiful sex and love life and powerful reliable hard stiff penis I now enjoy that you can too. The most important thing is to take action now whatever action you take.
I sincerely wish you the very best of luck with curing your ED.
“This journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”-Lao Tzu
Good luck and see you on the other side……
